IMPHAL DIARIES

It's so amazing that there is a place in our country which is so serene n seems it's somewhere from a time immemorial.  ...things like modernization n technology  ..n culture ...all r jostling for space together

My first observation is that It's a place wherein RICE is everywhere ...in food . habits..to ...to even names of shops..

The common thread amongst all tribes is.   Rice      consumed as the main food by all tribes of Manipur whereas meat, fish and seasonal vegetables are being the favorites.

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People are really good ...but segregated in various tribes..n they take precedence over everything ...

Here approx 58% lives in valley and rest 42% at hills which  are inhabited mainly by the tribals ...

There are 33 recognised tribes which either fall under the Nagas or the Kukis, the two different conglomerates of Manipur tribals. 

The two communities are differentiated mainly from their distinctive dialects, costumes, cultures and traditions. The Nagas have a history of headhunting and a strong warrior tradition whereas the Kukis are a sub-family of the Tibeto-Burman language group which is also related to Mizos of Mizoram and Chins in Myanmar.

The recognized tribes who made their home in Manipur for years now are Aimol, Anal, Chiru, Chothe, Gangte, Inpui, Hmar, Kharam, Khoibu, Koirao, Kom, Lamkang, Liangmai, Mao, Maram, Maring, Mate, Monsang, Moyon, Paite, Poumai, Purum, Ralte, Rongmei (Kabui), Simte, Suhte, Tangkhul, Tarao, Thadou, Thangal, Vaiphei, Zeme and Zou.

All the tribes generally communicate in their own dialects among the same ethnic groups while communication between different groups is carried out in Meitei or Manipuri language, the official language of Manipur

As I spend time it seems 

I will rise in love with this place....

N people will not think me MAYANG

METRO DIARIES : LIFETIME RELATIONSHIPS WHICH CAN BE SEASONAL OR REASONABLE

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This quote was once shared with me by a friend
“People come into our life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When one figures out which one it is, one will know what to do for each person….”.

One does not meet people by accident – they come into our life for a reason.

Yes, even the irritating ones.

If a relationship doesn’t survive the test of time, it doesn’t mean it still wasn’t meant to be.

Not all encounters with people are supposed to last forever. 

Sometimes the “forever” is not the person – but what we gain from them.

There’s a harmony and purpose for each person you meet....

Friendships and relationships, even workplace colleagues nearly always come to an end — as is the natural circle of life. The nature of life is constant change. And change can be a real bitch to say the very least. It can be totally devastating.
One can rest assured on this fact that it is almost certain — one poof and something happens (e.g redundancy, break up, death, car accident) and everything changes...

Comfort is only in putting something through a different lens to view in a different way.

When someone is in our life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need one expressed. They have come to assist us through a difficulty; to provide us with guidance and support..
They seem like a godsend, and they are. Then, without any wrongdoing on our part…they r gone....

When some people come into our life for a SEASON, it is probably our turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring us an experience of peace or make us laugh. They may teach us something one has never done.  Believe it. It is real.
But this is only for a short period of time....

LIFETIME relationships remains,
One has to build a solid emotional foundation. One's job is to accept the person , love & trust the person,
and put one has learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our life....

TYPES which I put my RELATIONSHIPS

FLYOVER

These people are not meant to last for the long road ahead. They are an enjoyable pathway to get us to where we need to go.

These people are needed to arrive exactly at the time and place you met them – to transport us to the next level of our life journey.

One meet these people for a reason – even if they are only here for a season.

JAM....MERS

These people come into your life to delay us – for both little things and big things.

For example,
one might have a conversation with someone – which then delays  and prevents you from getting into accident.

Sometimes rejection is a redirection to something better....
Well, that’s what these people do. They might show up as a rejector – but they are a redirector.

GURU

Often our tormentors double duty as as mentors.

They are here to teach us important life lessons – via the process of pain – which helps us to grow ...

Some people are just straight-up inspiring teachers – who teach us life lessons in a more loving manner.

Devdoot

These people are here to protect us and remind us to stay safe and stay self loving.

They are “guardian angels” of some sort.

Their purpose: Make sure that one does not stray too far from the path one is meant to be on.

In times of need and desperation they help us – when others are not there for

CLAN

These are the ones who are here to stay the long haul.

These people are far and few between – but they are the ones who are loyally there for you during tough times and celebratory times.

They see one clearly and accept one as he/she with flaws

Clan members support  when one is invisible to others.

Clan members root for one with a pure heart – when others might feel competitive or jealous.

Anamika

They represent and symbolize something one desires...
They r dreams... They come... Let us fulfill a dream N vanish
As if they were never there

Metro diary

Metro diary

‍‍‍Marriage Box‍ 

As we all know marriage at start is an empty box.. N love is in people not in marriage... Romance is infused in marriage

Now seeing things around me I feel the very reason of cheating.. Divorce.. Etc.. is this fact

It is ugly that the court and the law and the state interfere in our private life -- one has  to ask their permission to get seperated..

. Who are they? It is a question between two individuals, their private affairs.

But man has created societies, cultures, civilizations, rules, regulations, and made the whole humanity unnatural.  men and women either become husbands and wives -- which is something absolutely ugly; they start owning each other.... People are not things, you cannot have ownership.

No wife is anybody's property, no husband is anybody's property.

What kind of world have we created? People are reduced to properties; then there is jealousy, hatred. 

The problem is: biologically man is attracted to woman, women are attracted to men, but that attraction cannot remain the same forever. You are attracted to something which is a challenge to get. You see a beautiful man, a beautiful woman; you are attracted. Nothing is wrong in it. You feel your heart beating faster. You would like to be with this woman or man, and the attraction is so tremendous that in that moment you think you would like to live with this woman forever.

In a better, more intelligent world, people will love, but will not make any contracts. It is not a business! They will understand each other, and they will understand the changing flux of life. They will be true to each other. The moment the man feels that now his beloved holds no joy for him, he will say that the time has come to part. There is no need for marriage, there is no need for divorce. Then friendship will be possible. 

Why friendship is not possible between men and women.... Friendship is not possible between the jailor and the imprisoned.

Friendship is possible between equal human beings, totally free from all bondage of society, culture, civilization, only living true to their authentic nature. It is not an insult to the woman to say, "Honey, the honeymoon is over." It is not an insult to the man if the woman says, "Now things cannot be beautiful. The wind that has blown is no longer there."  because there is no legal bondage of marriage, there is no question of any divorce.

The woman is dependent on man because he used to earn. And for centuries men have not allowed women to be educated, to be in business, to have jobs, for the simple reason that if the woman has her own financial status, her own bank account, man cannot reduce her to a thing. 

On a lighter side Every wife once in her life wants to kill the husband. It is another matter that she does not kill him -- because if she kills him, what will she do?

Marriage creates the need to get rid of each other, because it means freedom is taken away -- and freedom is the highest value in human life.

If marriage disappears, divorce disappears automatically. This is a by-product of marriage. 

I know there r things if not made legal men will misuse this freedom but now or in near future woman will become independent.. N then we may have to rethink on this concept of marriage based on legal contract....